How to Stay in Love
Phases of Love …
Phases of Love:
3. Young Love
6. Newly Weds
7. Honeymoon phase
Everyone wants to stay in the honeymoon stage forever but after reaching the comfort stage you can plateau. Can you go back or only forward?
You can’t really go back and honestly, deep down you really don’t want to. There is greatness in knowing so much about one person and letting them see all of you with no fear or judgment. There are ways to keep the spark alive though and throw in some excitement into your monotone love.
Throw some Fun in the Mix!
A fun adventure is always a great way to experience as a couple and get you out of the house. Usually couples stay inside constantly or only go somewhere different for dinner but never for on an adventure. It’s time to get up off you lazy bum and experience something new!
-Take a day off from work and head to the beach
When you reach a level of extreme comfort, you tend to know what every day is going to be like and you live in a repetitive routine. A random floor dinner by candle light or a gift for your significant other will definitely make you appreciate each other more.
Mix it up in the Boudoir
You now have a go-to sex style and positions in a certain order, or lack of positions. Find something online or try mimicking a porno for something crazy and different. You might love it or you might not, but you will bond through the process. Give it a try!
Use Other Senses
Your love is now based on listening to each other, touch, and visual. Try taking away a sense to heighten the others. Maybe feed each other blind folded or give each other massages in the dark.
Try a New Hobby Together
A hobby that you are both involved in will bring you so much closer. You will also have something else to talk about besides food, family, and bills. Let’s be honest those conversations aren’t that thrilling.
-Horror movie marathons
HOW TO SAY NO TO SOMEONE WHO LIKES YOU
How do say no to someone who likes you? No one wants to…
How do say no to someone who likes you? No one wants to ruin someone’s day or year by having to break the news you don’t like them back, so we have some good ways to tell someone the truth but not in a brutal and embarrassing way.
If you met a guy once
If you met a man once and now he is pursing you hardcore and you don’t feel the same way, then you need to make sure and let him know ASAP. The key to this is to not let it drag out so he thinks he has a chance. Start replying less to none. Tell him you are not interested but hope he finds someone awesome. The longer he pines over you the worse it will be. You can also send him a farewell message that says “All the best with your future endeavors” as a nice way to say bye.
If a friend is in love with you
This one is tricky. You have to be very careful f you don’t want to lose a friendship. If you find out your friend is in love with you and you but don’t feel the same then you need to tell them. Say, “I think you are amazing but I love you as a friend and don’t want to lose this friendship but if you need space I understand.” Be respectful of how they feel. It is so much harder to be the one in love so try to keep that in mind. Also tell them that you see them as your brother.
If a coworker likes you
If a coworker likes you and you don’t like them, then make sure and always keep it first and foremost professional. Especially if they are higher ranking in the company then you, they could use it as a power play to control your fate. You do not want to be on anyone’s bad side at work, so clearly state, “I have a rule that I don’t date coworkers.” And if they are really pestering you then you can always say you have a boyfriend if you feel they are way too pushy. Keep your distance and only talk about work until they are over pursuing you. If he is the type to just enjoy the forbiddenness of office play then be clear and upfront. Also tell someone else you trust so they can back you up in case it gets out of control.
If someone else’s boyfriend/husband likes you
If someone else’s boyfriend likes you and you don’t like them then let the boyfriend know. If he keeps trying to get with you then tell his girlfriend that he is making you uncomfortable.
If someone’s husband likes you then tell them you are not a home-wrecker and avoid that guy completely. He needs to focus on his family. You do not want to be anywhere near that situation, it is a danger zone.
How To Stay Connected To Friends With A Sticky Partner
Picture the scene: you’ve gone to lunch with your friend, one of your…
Picture the scene: you’ve gone to lunch with your friend, one of your super close friends, and after reminiscing about the greatest times in your life together they drop the news that they went on a date. Of course you’re over the moon with the fact your friend has someone new in their life and wish them every bit of happiness. As time goes on the date is now their partner, which is fantastic news right?!
You make plans to hang out, they say they’re too busy with their partner to come and hang out, that’s okay, maybe next time? After multiple attempts a time and date with your friend has finally been planned, with their partner in tow leaving you a third wheel. Suddenly, it’s all they talk about, their partner is the only person they hang out with and you never see them again (unless they’re together). Their partner won’t let them out of their sight to see friends and no matter how much you try it feels like there’s no hope that you’ll see them again, but there really is.
This isn’t the only problem when it comes to dealing with sticky partners. No one likes to be a third wheel. When we’re dealing with significant others that are preventing you from seeing your closest friends, among other cases that can cause concern in the friendship circle you’re in, it’s time to pull out the red flag. Here is the definitive guide to staying connected to your friends who have difficult partners.
The Big Social Gathering
There’s always an excuse for a party, get-together or social event right? Invite all of your friends to a big get-together where they’re open to bring their own friends and partners (and their friends too if you’re feeling brave!). The idea is to make the event as sociable or as entertaining as possible, which is where creativity can be brought into the mix. You can ask them to bring their own cooked or baked goods to share with everyone, or even bring the cooking or baking to your home with all the mess and burnt cakes to laugh about. Ask them to bring board games, paper, DVDs, music, anything that tickles your fancy and gets people talking. It’s also not exclusive to indoors; taking everyone outside to events also brings people together. The aim is to be with your friends and having a good time forgetting about how many weeks it’s been since you last seen your friend without their partner and you can even get to know their significant other even better than before!
• Movie marathons of your favourite films
• Cake baking together with everyone contributing
• Picnics where each guest brings one box of food
• Homemade dinner where you’re able to talk altogether
• Bowling – girls vs. boys
• Karaoke where each person has to sing with someone they don’t know so well
The “I just want some time with my friend” Day
It can be pretty hard just to even get them to come out and see you if they’re with their partner constantly, but this time also allows for awesome plans together in the future. Allocate one day a month where you spend time with your friend away from their partner, just you and them. Again this breeds conversations that are well overdue with your friends such as what they’ve been up to, if they have a new job, any holiday plans or funny things that have happened in the past month. If it makes you feel more organised have a set of questions ready to ask each other to avoid those awkward silences. Make the venue somewhere you all love – the ice rink, the bowling alley, the cinema, your favourite place to eat or even just at home watching trashy TV. Catch up with everyone and get in on the latest gossip without them feeling bad about leaving their partner at home.
• Chocolate, cheese and wine nights
• A road trip to your favourite place away from home
• Have an arts and crafts day where you make art for each other to keep, no matter how bad they look
• Take photos in a photo booth to put in a scrap book
• Go on a bike ride together, or partake in a similar sport
The “Come To A Compromise” Chat
If nothing else is working, you’re feeling the pressure and you can’t come to a solution, then the reconciliation chat is the next best bet. This is the perfect time to sit with the sticky partner in question and try and come to a resolution between you and your friends. Friends come first, but relationships also are a part of most people’s lives, so it’s really important to balance the two as much as you can.
Meet in an open place where you don’t feel any pressure (and in case you blurt out something you shouldn’t) with you, your friend(s) and their partner(s) and establish an equal ground. Tell them how much you want to see your friends, but understand that with them juggling work, hobbies and other pursuits on top of socialising with friends can be a challenge sometimes. If your friends understand what you’re going through they will commit to meeting with you as and when they can, so long as your feelings are established as valid. Your friends will come and go, and maybe go for a long time and never return, but as long as there’s light you still have a chance.
There will always be sticky moments in friendship, and around Valentine’s Day it truly sucks when you’re alone when your friends are with your their partners (move over, Ryan Gosling), but always remember that what’s important is that your friends will still be around when they come back. Whether they break up with them, whether they need you’re advice, whether they even tie the knot, show them that you’ll be there – that’s true friendship. Above all this Valentine’s Day, have fun, spend time with your loved ones should you find yourself alone, and don’t forget those discounted chocolates the day after!